Love to the Ladies

As you can probabaly tell, I've been feeling a bit down lately. Work, money, guys, and other various things have gotten the best of me. I went to a friend's birthday the other night and realized what I needed to shake off my blues.

For those who know me, you're aware that I have a lot of guy friends. I meet and get along well with the opposite sex a bit easier than I do with ladies. The funny thing is that that was not always the case. When I was younger, I had a ton of girlfriends. I think it was my junior year of high school that I started having more guys than girls in my life. It was then that drama surrounding dating and boys threatened, and even ruined several friendships. 

I hated the way we ladies treated each other and acted when we got together in large groups. I couldn't stand the gossip, rumors, talk of insecurities, and backstabbing that came along with being female. Most of all, I didn't like that I participated in all of it. I didn't like who I became.  So I adopted a new group of mostly guys, and didn't look back. Sure, I kept in touch with my girls, and still hung from time to time. But through the rest of high school and college, I mostly was one of the guys.

Only recently have I begun to yearn for the company of my close lady friends. I forgot the ease and comfort of chatting with the girls. I forgot that there are some things that can only be really discussed with, or appreciated by a woman. Most of all, I forgot how fucking amazing my girlfriends are! They have great jobs, are mothers and wives, they travel, are creative and talented, and most of all, they love and put up with me no matter what.

I'm nut saying that my guys aren't amazing too, but there's somethings you just can't do with the boys. What sucks for me is that most of my ladies are far, far away. So, yesterday,on a whim, I drove to beautiful Pasco,WA to see my darling friend, Bridget. She, Mandy, and I drank wine, talked about our lives (the good and the bad), and had a dance party in the living room! Sure, I probabaly could do that with a guy, but it wouldn't have been the same. I need my time with my ladies. And besides, I'm tired of being a friend-girl (but that's a whole other entry).

This trip to see my girl Bridge was not only one fourth of my "visit 4 friends" resolution, it was a wake up call, and a much needed comfort, reassurance, and brought me back from a dark and lonely place. Thank you Bridge, I love you and miss you already! To my ladies in Portland, we've GOT together more often. My place is always available for wine drinking and living room dance parties!

-Eb